In our lives, we can’t always expect the people we meet to be nice to us or kind to us. Sometimes we will have to deal with toxic people. So when you hear the word toxic it comes to your mind there is something poisonous, yes there are poisonous things in this world among them there are dangerous poisoned things which are known as words that are filled with anger. Words are something powerful that can kill us and as well as which can heal us that is why they say “Words can break you – as well as words can make you”. So sometimes we will have to deal with toxic people the people who are filled with anger, resentment, and hatred. So you would expect that all the toxic people are in the outer society, no sometimes, toxic people can be found in our family, it may be your husband, it may be your wife, brother, or sister, and sometimes people may become toxic and they may be the people who we love most.
So if a person is toxic and that person lives out of our private life it is easy to deal with them, either we can be away from them, we can reduce the contact with them and, we can find some positive ways to respond to them, when it comes to the people who are living with you and your family, it is very complicated to face such toxic people, so how to deal with such toxic people.
- Be silent – when you are in an argument never say anything, never do anything. If anyone yells or blames you, all you have to do is stay smiling and silent and make them feel that, you are not disturbed. Make them feel, they cannot destroy your inner peace with their words. When you can do that they become confused.
In an argument, there are two choices the first choice is to react to that argument, or the second choice is to respond to the argument. So reaction and responding are two different things. If you choose a reaction you will become as angry as them, you will blame them, you will try to make them down by hatred and anger. You will never win that argument. The best way to win an argument is silence. When you are silent you will feel like you are defeated. but actually, you’re not, when you are staying calm during an adversity time and in an argument you’re making your opponent confused and they may no longer yell at you. So what will happen if we do not put any kind of fuel to the fire that will gradually fade away, The same goes for the argument, that if you are not giving any weapon to your opponent to hurt you they will never come to argue with you again, those problems will end quickly.
- Approach them with kindness – never blame them do not try to convince them at that time, you should approach to them with kindness and compassionate words. Ask them what is the problem with you, are you having any mental stress you then they will feel comfortable and safe with you, and they may regret about the things they have done and about the words that they have spoken to you if you approach them with your kindness, if you help with them with your compassionate words that hart will be healed.
That fire of anger will extinguish, so what you have to do is approach to them with compassion. Don’t speak when you are angry or don’t act when the other person is angry stay still and be kind to them smile at them that is the second step that you can do.
- Forgive them – after the argument if you approach to them with kindness and if you heal with your compassionate words they will ask for forgiveness.
So what should you do forgive them with “It’s okay, no problem I can be patient with you but you have to control your anger because if you do not control your anger, your life will be ruined, and your spirituality will be ruined” so make them feel that they need to control their anger and they should not yell at you and you need to forgive them, by forgiving we can free our mind, we can live freely and happily so these are the three steps that we can use to deal with toxic people?
